Lessons in Leadership: We Need One Another
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. –Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10
We need one another. I’ve been reminded of this several times over the last few days. For example, this morning I met with one of our Conference’s Clergy Communities of Practice (CCOP) and heard from a participant about the great benefit of meeting together—even via zoom—to talk, learn, and more generally just to get to know fellow clergy. That’s a common refrain; I’ve heard it many times over the past three years since we started CCOPs.
This afternoon I found myself on a zoom meeting with a group of fellow clergy women of various denominations who meet together regularly for similar purposes. One of the women frequently refers to us as “her tribe.” Another remarked today on the value of having a place to openly share tough emotions that range from breaking down in the aisle of the grocery store to exhaustion from doing three funerals since Easter.
Sometimes it's a text or phone call shared with a mentor or friend that make a difference. Like the funny GIF I got a few days back of a bear waving “hello” from behind a fence. Ridiculous sure, but also a reminder that I have someone looking out for me, who I could call anytime, and who teaches me a great deal about leadership.
The point is this: We all need people to turn to, friends to call, and mentors to rely on, no matter whether we’re in a pandemic or not. Leaders need support, encouragement and the opportunity to learn from others. No one—especially not great leaders—does it alone. True leaders always have a community around them, supporting them and helping them on the journey.
Who are your people? Where do you turn for a listening ear? And equally importantly, who are you offering yourself to in this time?
Reflect on those questions deeply this week. If you struggle to find answers, or need to expand your network, reach out. I would be happy to help you make connections and build new relationships. We’re all in this together.
Even when the dark comes crashing through
When you need a friend to carry you
When you’re broken on the ground
You will be found
So let the sun come streaming in
‘Cause you’ll reach up and you’ll rise again
If you only look around
You will be found.
-You Will Be Found from Dear Evan Hansen